No More Tears!

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The tears at the table were my undoing. I couldn’t take torturing her any more, so I decided enough was enough, and became determined to do something about it. I was going to stop making learning a chore, and find ways to make it fun and interesting for my daughter. I wasn’t sure how I would do it, but I knew there had to be a way.

I found myself questioning why kids didn’t have the freedom to choose what they wanted to learn and why they couldn’t learn in ways that worked for them. Learning is a natural process, and forcing them to do things in unnatural ways didn’t make sense to me. In reality, it seemed counterproductive!

If kids learn best through play, and we make them learn in the most dull and formal ways imaginable, how does that help them?

In my opinion, it is the least effective method they can be offered!
Why not help them learn in enjoyable ways they can relate to?

I knew there would be certain skills she would need to know, but in all honesty, those things didn’t take all that long to learn. There are so many awesome things to learn about today, and many more things to discover, why would I want to force her to dislike the most natural process in the world?

Over the years I have learned that kids do not have to be pushed into learning the things they “need to know” in order to succeed in life. Actually, I have found the opposite to be true. If the skill is important enough to have, then it is even more important to offer them all the time and freedom they need to gain the level of mastery required to become successful.

Here we are almost twenty years later and now when people ask me how we learn, I reply…

My kids are free to follow their interests and to explore any topic they choose, for as long as they want, and we do our best not to limit them in any way, shape or form.

The questions I receive most are…
  • How do they learn to read, write and do math without a curriculum?
  • How will they learn about the world and how it works?

We have a very long history of people and cultures we consider successful, and they were never forced or pushed into doing the amazing things they did. As a matter of fact, people are still doing amazing things today because they want to!

If given the chance, I will do my best to explain how encouraging people, especially young people, to follow their own interests can be extremely beneficial, and I’ll offer suggestions on how learning can be made enjoyable for people at any age.

If you would like to hear more about what I have to say, please use the following ways to stay in contact with me:

Here are a few of the topics I will be offering my thoughts on…
  • Learning how to read and write in more natural ways.
  • Learning math in context.
  • Creativity.
  • Exploring the world.
  • Offering choices.
  • Open-ended activities.
  • Offering challenges.
  • Taking it one day at at time and much more.
Thanks for reading!


  1. Oh the writing– it's the one “chore” /core learning area me and my boys struggle with. I try not to teach it at all but then they don't ever write– EVER. I can't wait to read that blog post!

  2. Fran, thing is – everything in life isn't about fun. You know? Sometimes things are a chore. Sometimes there are some basics that need to be learned. Just as long as they are learning, I don't think it matters really the method. It doesn't matter what anyone thinks of you or your methods, you know? I have stopped trying to justify to anyone. In the end, what they think doesn't matter.Thanks for this post, and for sharing on the #homeschoollinkup!

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